Hobbies & Interests: Nice Guys

What is it with the world today? Now I know the relationships are up and down. But for me it's hard being the nice guy. I try to do everything that I think a woman would want. Buy the flowers, open the doors, and have the romantic dinners. But it doesn't seem like it's enough. Is the bad boy era here for good or is there still room for us nice guys? It seems like when I meet woman it always turns out to just be a friendship. What can I do to change this from always happening? Is there a certain type of man that woman want? I know the one thing that hurts me in meeting woman is I'm very shy by nature and I'm working to change that. If anyone out here has any help to offer please feel free. Good or bad I can take it.

Green is right! Please let me tell you about my husband... before we started dating, my husband treated women the same as you. He was about to give up, then we found eachother... and I appreciated him for everything he did for me and for who he was (is). We've been together for 4 years now. I'm sure you're thinking that 4 years isn't that long, but it is when you truly love someone. In some relationships, love fades. Well, not in this one. And, another thing that hasn't faded is the way he treats me... like the QUEEN that I am. LOL But, in all seriousness... you will find a woman who appreciates everything you do. Trust me! It will definitely take some time, but stick with it. It will be all worth it in the end!

Thanks to everyone that helped me with this situation. I will keep the faith and the right girl will come along. Till then I will try all your suggestions. Thanks again for the help

It's not about being a nice guy.
Be a Good Man.

Nice Guy: Here is a few bucks you poor beggar. Now go buy some crak or wine.
In Need Guy: God Bless You! shuffle, shuffle, shuffle, snicker, snicker, Glug, Glug, Glug.

Good Man: You need help. I can see that. How can I help you solve you're problem.
In Need Guy: Shove Off, Wanker!
Good Man: May God, Bless You!

I know the woman not a beggar, but offer love for the right reasons at the right times. Be bold - some might say "tough love" it's not all about being nice.

And, Liz is right about age. They only get better with time. Like fine wine and cheese! (But, not like that processed pre-sliced and wrapped cheese. THAT does NOT get better with time. That's the kind of cheese or woman/girl you use for the right occasion - when appropriate. Like for a quick sandwich. EWE NASTY.) I'm talking about the fine stuff. That stuff satisfies and provides deeper contentment. Remember what a dork or ass you were when younger? If you don't, maybe that's your problem. You need to age some more. Now go back to the climate controlled room and leave the ladies alone till you age some more.

I'm not saying don't be nice. Be more than nice. Oh, and don't forget the birthdates, anniversaries, others. They want to be celebrated and remembered! Just make sure she's worth celebrating before you commit to much of yourself. If it's too late before you start to have second thoughts, celebrate her anyway! Because you're no picnic either, buddy! Honor & Celebrate her if you expect

It's ALOT harder to be a Good Man. And, it's best learned in a climate controlled room. Make sure you have the right climate though. Jeez! Takes much more effort and discipline. Wish I had started learning sooner. Aaarrghhh!

Oh Well. One day at a time.

And, be nice and treat her to some good eats at Wilkinson's Family Rest. Veggies... Yum!

you sound like the dream guy what's up. My husband was a real geek . told him stand staight and be proud of what you are and your accoplishments, and then I started dressing him for sussess that was a big mistake cause it went to his head. never think that you are to good for anyone ask like you have and soon you will find the right person, but do not rush into anything take this from someone who was there. Love will come soon to you I hope, don't rush.