Relationships: What Men Want!

The common feeling and idea is that the man “wears the pants” in a relationship. This idea has emerged because most men want to be in charge and have control of the situations in their life. Despite wanting to control what is going on in their lives, men want the woman in their life to be able to make them happy. Making the man in your life happy goes beyond the bedroom walls, it involves knowing what he needs and wants. Men, just like women, need a certain type of attention from the women in their lives.

So what do most men want?

Let’s first look at the area of communication. Women, we all think we know how to communicate. We’ve been communicating since our beginnings playing with dolls and barbies. However, the type of communicating we need to do for our men is different. We need to really listen to them. It is so easy to hear, but not to listen. How many times have you half listened to what your man was telling you and then you go off on a yelling rampage. These actions make men feel that women don’t communicate well and it makes them want to avoid communicating with us. So, do both your man and yourself a favor, let the man make his point, whether good or bad, and truly listen to what he is saying.

Everyone likes to feel like they’ve done something well. We praise the animals in our lives, the children in our lives, but we also need to praise the men in our lives. Men want to be praised for the contributions that they make, with or without being told to do so. Being recognized and praised makes a man feel responsible. We all like to be praised, so be sure to give out what you also like to receive.

Men would also like it for women to realize that they can’t read our minds. Sure, there are times when we would love it if they could, but most of the time they can’t. Most of the time, we don’t even know what we want or what we are feeling, so we shouldn’t think that the men in our lives can figure it out when even we can’t.

Don’t impose quality time on men. Whether that quality time be with you, family members, or even children. When you are telling men that they have to spend quality time doing this and that with such and such, they simply see it as you trying to control the moment. Remember, the men like to have the control. Allow the man in your life to determine the way in which he wants to spend quality time with those that he chooses to spend quality time with.

How many times do you catch yourself complaining that your man is not spontaneous enough? You don’t always have to wait for your man to make the move, you can initiate the spontaneity too. However, be careful not to go too far because we do not want the man to feel unneeded.
Here comes a big one…oral sex. Men love oral sex. This is their time for a little special attention in life, and most men feel that women do not spend enough time engaging in this activity with them.

It is important to know how your man feels about this and what he likes in regards to this. This may mean that you have to give in a little or be a little creative in the bedroom, but a relationship is all about give and take. You sometimes need to give in order to receive, so be sure to please your man so that he can in turn please you too.

Finally, let’s hit on the “l” word. Just like we like to be told that our men love us, we need to also tell them that we love them too. You cannot take your man’s emotions for granted. Sure, your man may not be in to hearing the words “I love you”, but he wants you to show him that you love him. When you show your man you love him, in whatever way you choose to do so, it makes the man know in their heart and mind that your love is real and you will stand beside them.

Take a step back ladies and think about what the man in your life needs or wants sometimes. Doing this will prove to add success to your relationship.