Relationships: time wasted on depression

Yeah, I can understand that. I suffered 3 miscarriages and it was very difficult for me to feel connected to people or get involved in activities. I've known others who didn't seem to be as affected or they just didn't show it.

Well I have to say depression sucks and it can't be neatly tucked under a carpet and it's over. For the friend who can stay busy that's great but that friend is still hurting, she/he's camoflauging! They figured out a way to not let depression take over but there's always the pain and anguish there. It doesn't have to be shared w/everyone like an open sore, not everyone wears their heart on their sleeve. If you ask your friend I'm sure they'll tell ya, maybe cry, maybe get angry maybe clam up...that's depression.
For you that can't get out of bed...that's serious depression. That's a serious need for help! Whether it's chemical or just needing social interaction w/others it's a need for help. The longer you stay away from the rest of the world the harder it is to feel like you fit in and belong to something else besides your depression. Depression is a disease don't let it take you down. Get help, from your doctor, from your friends, from your mother, from anyone or anywhere but please get out of bed.
For you who miscarried, first I am very sorry for your loss. That is a devastating misfortune for anyone to have to go through. And it's perfectly normal to feel that way! I'm sure others who have been through it are affected by it severely but maybe they just don't wear their hurt on their sleeve. Some keep it in their heart where their love for that lost child will always remain. Always!
What I think is most important for anyone who is depressed is to not go it alone!! It's a disease that needs attention and others around you (friends, family, lovers etc) are not clairvoyant, they need you to open up to your depression to be able to help! So please reach out for help!

When I'm a little bit down or upset about something I write it down. I get all my anger or frustration out on paper. Then I destroy the paper. Its almost like I am letting the problem go. Life is not fair, its unpredictable and frustrating. But we only get one shot, so I try to take each day as it comes and enjoy it to the fullest. At least we have this website to vent our frustrations and possibly get some help from someone who has been through it. Good luck to ya!!