Relationships: 25th Wedding Anniversay

I can't really tell you what to do, but I can tell you I have in-law issues of my own, and what I've learned from now 8 years of experience, no matter what you do or say, it won't change. Even if they know they are wrong, and know they are being unfair or even just rude, it doesn't matter. They think what they think, they do what they do, and they don't care that it hurts your feelings, or upsets you. My issues involve my kids, and yes some of it may be petty, but hey they are MY kids. That's the beauty of being a parent. You get to do it YOUR WAY no matter what anyone else says, thinks, or does. What I would do though, is just mention to them, "hey this was my idea in the first place and no one wanted to do it, but now all of a sudden it's the greatest thing and I'm not even allowed to help or be involved" They probably won't say much, they probably won't care much, but at least you stood up for yourself. That's the other thing I've learned. I used to just let everything roll off my back, and let it go, and I'd secretly hold a grudge, but now, everything pretty much comes out and I don't care if they get upset with me. And thankfully, my husband usually agree's with me on everything that happens anyway, so at least we don't fight about it. That's the 3rd thing, and I've seen it with my own two eyes, in-laws can seriously COME BETWEEN you and your husband. Don't let it! If he gets upset because you say bad things about the way they treat you, then obviously he's not very understanding of your feelings, but whatever it takes, don't let it come between you cause it can get BAD!!!! Hope everything turns out okay.